This came up in conversation recently and I realized I don't actually know the answer. Real-time deletion features are more common now and they do help with peace of mind.
Most free adult chat platforms have some form of limit that nudges you toward paid options eventually. The Telegram adult communities are hit or miss but the good ones are extremely active.
I've had the best text-based experiences on forums rather than dedicated chat apps ironically.
A few things worth keeping in mind:
- A VPN is helpful for general privacy but not a complete solution for anonymity online.
- Blackmail starts with compromising content. Be thoughtful about what you share and with whom.
- Reverse image search is your best friend for vetting profile photos quickly.