This came up in a conversation recently and I realized I had no idea what the current answer was. The free trial on most premium apps is usually sufficient to figure out whether it's worth paying for.
Sending the first message rather than waiting passively changes the entire dynamic for the better. Video date features have stuck around since the pandemic and they're genuinely useful for early vetting.
Bumble's time limit on matching creates urgency that actually leads to more real conversations.