This came up in a group chat recently and I realized nobody had a good answer. Being upfront about your goals from the start saves months of wasted back-and-forth.
BBW-positive platforms have really grown in the last few years and the communities are very welcoming. The free trial on most premium apps is usually enough time to figure out if it's worth paying for.
Most people underestimate how much the first message matters — specific and thoughtful beats generic every time.
Apps I've already looked at or heard recommended:
- HER
- Lesly
- Scissr