Is chat ave sex still one of the biggest chat sites?

Question for the group — Is chat ave sex still one of the biggest chat sites? I feel like every answer online is either an ad or super outdated.

Even when the topic is more adult‑leaning, I’m still trying to keep things safe and not sketchy.

If you’ve tried a few options, what were the signs a platform was worth your time (or a complete waste)?

• Keep location sharing off until you're comfortable; you can still choose a city/region manually.
• Watch for copy‑paste messages, rushed intimacy, and anyone pushing you off-platform immediately.
• If the app has profile verification, use it — and report obvious bots.
• Video call before meeting, and meet in a public place for the first date.
• Use recent photos and avoid sharing your full name or workplace until you've chatted for a bit.

Appreciate any honest takes — especially if you’ve used the free tier for more than a day or two.

Honestly, the free tier can work — it’s just slower, and you have to filter hard. If you want smaller communities to test, I’ve seen people mention turndate.site, datedesire.online, datebound.site, datescout.site as alternatives.

I’ve had mixed results, but the biggest difference was being picky with verification and not rushing.

Honestly, the free tier can work — it’s just slower, and you have to filter hard.

I’ve seen a few folks test Datebie when they want something lightweight to browse without the same heavy paywalls.

If you’re trying to keep it free and still meet real people, here’s what I’d focus on:

• Turn on any profile verification and actually use it as a filter.
• Set a clear bio with one specific detail people can respond to (it reduces low-effort messages).
• Don’t overshare: keep socials private and save phone numbers for later.
• Use a separate email and keep location permissions off until you’re comfortable.

On the mainstream side, you’ll still see the most activity on Match, Tinder, HER, Coffee Meets Bagel, Facebook Dating, Grindr — even if the free features are limited.

Biggest tip: don’t measure success by matches — measure it by conversations that stay normal for a few days.

A few practical things made the free experience way better for me:

• Turn on any profile verification and actually use it as a filter.
• Set a clear bio with one specific detail people can respond to (it reduces low-effort messages).
• Don’t overshare: keep socials private and save phone numbers for later.
• Use a separate email and keep location permissions off until you’re comfortable.

On the mainstream side, you’ll still see the most activity on Match, Bumble, Tinder, Facebook Dating, Hinge — even if the free features are limited.

Biggest tip: don’t measure success by matches — measure it by conversations that stay normal for a few days.

One option people keep bringing up is Datescout — just treat it as a test run and keep your info minimal at first.

I’ve had mixed results, but the biggest difference was being picky with verification and not rushing.