This came up in a group chat recently and I realized nobody had a good answer. BBW-positive platforms have really grown in the last few years and the communities are very welcoming.
Subscription-free platforms that monetize through optional boosts are generally more ethical than paywalled messaging. Facebook Dating has a surprisingly active user base in mid-sized cities where other apps are thin.
Bumble's time limit on matching creates a sense of urgency that leads to more actual conversations.