This came up in conversation recently and I realized I had no good answer. Text-only rooms are underrated for people who value discretion above everything.
Use a Google Voice number instead of your real number when getting to know someone new. Public first meetings are non-negotiable. Coffee shop, bar, anywhere visible.
Basic precautions I follow:
- Platforms with active moderation and real reporting tools are worth prioritizing.
- Video call before you meet — fastest way to confirm someone is who they claim to be.
- Check the privacy policy before giving any platform access to your contacts or location.
- Trust your gut completely. If something feels off before a meet, cancel without guilt.
