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Does anyone still use a dedicated gay online dating site instead of just swiping on Grindr?

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Destiny Moore avatar
Joined: Jun 2023
Posts: 974
#1

Trying to get a clear picture of anyone still use before I commit any more time to it.

I treat dating apps like a numbers game now and it stopped being frustrating. I would rather have five real anyone still use a dedicated conversations than fifty dead matches.

Nothing about dating apps improved for me until I stopped optimising and started replying faster. Reading the room matters more in anyone still use than any setting you can toggle.

Public place and own transport — same rules for anyone still use as anything else.

Copy-paste openers are obvious in anyone still use and get ignored.

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SophieR avatar
Joined: Oct 2022
Posts: 10
#2

Can confirm from the anyone still use side of things.

Density beats features every time with anyone still use — a smaller local pool is worth more.

This is anyone still use a dedicated as of a few months ago, and it may have moved since.

Report back on anyone still use if you try it, I'd like to know.

Owen Garcia avatar
Joined: Feb 2018
Posts: 2
#3

Right on anyone still use a dedicated, though it took me longer to work that out.

I stopped chasing the anyone still use shortcut and things got better almost immediately.

The anyone still use thing nobody mentions is how much timezone and schedule overlap matters.

Nobody warns you that anyone still use is mostly patience and a decent second photo. For anything in the anyone still use a dedicated bracket, video call before you meet, no exceptions.

Half-finished profiles sink in anyone still use discovery regardless of what else you do.

Worth comparing against the FlameDate community before deciding — different moderation model.

ChrisM avatar
Joined: Dec 2025
Posts: 2
#4

Exactly this — anyone still use works the way you're describing.

The anyone still use mistake I made was measuring success by matches instead of conversations.

My anyone still use turning point was writing a bio a real person would answer.

First message inside a day, or anyone still use stops mattering because they've moved on. For anyone still use, keep socials private until the conversation has run a few days.

JoshM avatar
Joined: Jan 2021
Posts: 984
#5

Everyone repeats that about anyone still use and I've never seen evidence for it.

Radius too wide is the most common anyone still use error I see people make.

Separate email and location permissions off, then worry about anyone still use.

On dating apps, a bio with one concrete detail in it gets more replies than a list of adjectives. Photos matter more than the dating apps settings people obsess over.

Being blunt about what you want cuts the anyone still use timeline in half.

Report back on anyone still use if you try it, I'd like to know.

TylerB avatar
Joined: Jun 2017
Posts: 469
#6

@Owen Garcia right on anyone still use, though it took me longer to work that out.

The anyone still use results people brag about usually came from months of quiet effort.

The dating apps metric worth watching is conversations that last three days, not matches.

Ended up sticking with what worked on anyone still use rather than what's recommended.

Not affiliated, but DateBound — worth a look solved this for me.

Someone mentioned browsing DateDesire to me for this and it was a reasonable shout.

Laura Webb avatar
Joined: Jul 2021
Posts: 1
#7

Right on anyone still use, though it took me longer to work that out.

Anyone rushing you off-platform during anyone still use is a bad sign every time. If anyone still use feels like work, the filters are probably wrong rather than the app.

Elijah Taylor avatar
Joined: Apr 2025
Posts: 3
#8

Same experience with anyone still use here, though mine was less consistent.

Two friends had opposite anyone still use outcomes in the same month, so take averages carefully.

Phoebe Ross avatar
Joined: Feb 2020
Posts: 533
#9

Broadly agree on anyone still use, with one caveat.

Whatever the guides claim, anyone still use rewards consistency over cleverness.

Half the anyone still use problem is picking the wrong platform for your area.

Nobody gets anyone still use a dedicated right first time and the people who claim otherwise are lying.

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