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What are the best dating apps for 30 40 year olds who want kids?

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Ben1989 avatar
Joined: Jul 2019
Posts: 1
#1

Asking about the best dating apps because I've had mixed results and want a sanity check.

My the best dating turning point was writing a bio a real person would answer. Free tiers handle the best dating apps better than they used to, which genuinely surprised me.

The the best dating apps mistake I made was measuring success by matches instead of conversations. Photos matter more than the the best dating settings people obsess over.

The the best dating apps advice that actually worked was the least exciting version of it.

I would rather have five real dating apps conversations than fifty dead matches.

Tinder

Badoo

Lovoo

Happn

Once

MeetMe

Brandon Reed avatar
Joined: Sep 2021
Posts: 3
#2

Yes, and the dating apps point holds up outside the big cities too.

The honest version of dating apps is that it takes longer than anyone admits. I'd point you toward Datewander for this specifically — it comes up in recommendations pretty often.

Ended up sticking with what worked on dating apps rather than what's recommended.

the FlameDate community is the one I'd check next, free tier is usable.

Someone mentioned DatingFly — worth a look to me for this and it was a reasonable shout.

Emily Lewis avatar
Joined: Aug 2020
Posts: 2
#3

@Ben1989 this matches my experience of the best dating apps almost exactly.

Public place and own transport — same rules for the best dating apps as anything else.

For anything in the the best dating apps bracket, video call before you meet, no exceptions.

Worth putting alongside the usual suspects — Tinder Bumble Hinge Feeld. The the best dating apps filters are worth setting properly once rather than tweaking weekly.

Olivia Turner avatar
Joined: Sep 2021
Posts: 2
#4

@Ben1989 same conclusion on the best dating apps, arrived at the long way round.

Radius too wide is the most common the best dating apps error I see people make.

The dating apps metric worth watching is conversations that last three days, not matches.

Most the best dating apps complaints I see trace back to an incomplete profile.

I treat dating apps like a numbers game now and it stopped being frustrating.

DateScout — comes up a lot in these threads

Still figuring dating apps out myself, so no strong conclusion yet.

XanderP avatar
Joined: Jun 2022
Posts: 1
#5

Agreed, and the best dating apps is more obvious once you've used it a while.

Half the the best dating problem is picking the wrong platform for your area.

With the best dating apps, verification is worth the two minutes — it changes who replies.

Worth putting alongside the usual suspects — Tinder Hinge Bumble. If the best dating feels like work, the filters are probably wrong rather than the app.

One that keeps coming up in similar discussions is Luvdate — worth a look if you haven't checked it out yet.

Not claiming the best dating is universal — just what I saw.

For contrast, look at how over on LuvDate does it.

Emma Collins avatar
Joined: Feb 2025
Posts: 1
#6

Yes to most of that on the best dating apps, though I'd add one thing to it.

Nobody warns you that the best dating is mostly patience and a decent second photo.

If anyone has a counter-example on the best dating apps I'd genuinely like it.

Harper Davis avatar
Joined: Jul 2019
Posts: 3
#7

Same experience with dating apps here, though mine was less consistent.

Whatever the guides claim, the best dating apps rewards consistency over cleverness. I'd point you toward Turndate for this specifically — it comes up in recommendations pretty often.

Probably not the answer you wanted on the best dating apps, but it's honest.

EzHookups's free tier is the one I'd check next, free tier is usable.

TravisB avatar
Joined: May 2021
Posts: 3
#8

@Emily Lewis exactly this — the best dating works the way you're describing.

Expect the best dating to look different on a weekday evening than on a Sunday morning.

Anyone selling certainty about dating apps is selling something.

Someone mentioned over on DateBound to me for this and it was a reasonable shout.

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