This came up in a conversation recently and I realized I had no idea what the current answer was. Use a Google Voice number instead of your real number when you're still getting to know someone new.
OkCupid's free tier is still surprisingly usable compared to what most other apps offer for nothing. Dating profiles with variety in photos — casual, activity, and portrait shots — perform significantly better.
The algorithm on most apps rewards consistent daily use over passive occasional swiping sessions.
Safety considerations I keep in mind:
- Most romance scams follow predictable patterns: quick emotional escalation and requests for money.
- Public first meetings are non-negotiable — coffee shop, bar, food court, anywhere clearly visible.
- Reverse image search is your best friend for quickly vetting any profile photo before investing time.
- Separate email addresses dedicated to dating activity is just good basic digital hygiene.