This came up in conversation recently and I realized I don't actually know the answer. The cougar-cub dynamic has become way more mainstream and accepted over the last decade.
Privacy settings on most platforms let you control visibility carefully which is important for discretion. Video call before you meet — it's the fastest way to confirm someone is who they say they are.
Regional groups and local events are underrated ways to meet people in this niche.
A few things worth keeping in mind:
- Public first meetings are non-negotiable. Coffee shop, bar, food court — somewhere visible.
- Report suspicious behavior to the platform — most have dedicated teams for this now.
- Screen recording during video chats is a real concern. Keep personal identifying details off screen.