Been mulling this over for a while and this seemed like the right community to ask. Jack'd has a very active international community that's worth checking out beyond just domestic use.
The bear and daddy subculture has strong dedicated apps that the mainstream platforms simply can't match. Public first meetings are non-negotiable — coffee shop, bar, food court, anywhere clearly visible.
Gay video chat quality is completely platform-dependent — some have great HD, others are still SD.
Apps I've already looked at or heard recommended:
- OkCupid
- Match.com
- eHarmony
- Plenty of Fish
- Zoosk
- Badoo