Hoping someone has more recent experience with the best place to find than I do.
Anyone rushing you off-platform during the best place is a bad sign every time. Update photos every few months if you're active on the best place.
First message inside a day, or the best place stops mattering because they've moved on. The the best place metric worth watching is conversations that last three days, not matches. The honest version of the best place to find is that it takes longer than anyone admits. I treat the best place like a numbers game now and it stopped being frustrating.