This came up in conversation recently and I realized I don't actually know the answer. Anonymous chat is mostly an illusion unless you're running through a trustworthy VPN and using a burner.
Most free adult chat platforms have some form of limit that nudges you toward paid options eventually. Video call before you meet — it's the fastest way to confirm someone is who they say they are.
A few things worth keeping in mind:
- Trust your gut completely. If something feels off before a meet, cancel without guilt.
- Use a Google Voice number instead of your real number when you're still getting to know someone.
- Separate browser profiles and email addresses for dating activity are basic hygiene at this point.
- Tell a trusted friend where you're going and share your live location during a first meet.